These are posts about the continuing experience outside the Essays. As the journey has progressed - so has the atmosphere. These writing continue the journey as the essays were completed as of July 20, 2020. Read of that moment as the essays came to a conclusion here - "Lessons from the Essays" or hear the narration of that post - "Lessons of the Essays - Narrated".
Written Wednesday, October 3, 2019 / Day 52 / Afternoon
(Written for the “Coping with Grief Through Writing” support group - Wednesday, October 3, 2019)
To my dear, sweet, Joann…
Words are not adequate to express how it is without you - so I will not try to do that.
Grief has been relentless and because you were everything to me, that has made life quite unbearable.
Recently I discovered those notes you used to put in my lunch snacks.
Every day they were there - and everyday when I read them they made me smile. Every day.
Being sentimental as I am - I saved them of course.
Then life moved on to where I now am today.
So imagine my surprise when going through some things in the house I found 2 9 by12 envelopes with the notes in them! I had found where I had saved them all.
As I hugged the envelope I realized that these little notes were a part of you. At the time I had to keep them - because they were you.
I couldn’t look at them at all…but then it struck me - why not?
This is what I want to replace the sadness that is now my life.
I am tired of that sadness.
So I am going to embrace these notes - I am going to smile again.
I know that is what you would want. You would be the first person to tell me that. So I will.
I’m not sure if I’ll just take one a day or maybe two - I’ll just have to try it and see what happens - but what I will do is when I read them is - I will smile.
And I’ll remember all those good times.
Yes I will still live with sadness - that is part of my life for the moment.
But these note will make a difference. They will make me smile.
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